Wednesday, April 27, 2005

Mr Right 

well, i really don't know whats with the "trend" of getting married young these days. other than the old friend i bumped into recently who just got married, my mum told me my old childhood friend, peter, also just got married recently. coincidentally these 2 old friends are also in sydney now. and peter is my age. that mighty young for a guy i say. i really can't believe it. its pretty scary to think of it, you never know whose wedding bells you'll be hearing next.

maybe some feel there is never a "right" age to get married, as long as they feel that they've found the right person and they are ready to settle down they just do it. for me, at 20, my life hasn't even really got started. im still in school, i haven't really met enough people, i haven't enjoyed my life enough. marriage has never even crossed my mind (for now, that is). to think that some people say "it takes a lifetime to find that perfect one" 20yrs isnt much of a lifetime for me, i haven't even had enough time to decide whos the perfect one for me, maybe i haven't even met him yet. i guess some are just lucky they found the right person, at the right time, right place.

speaking of time, i recall a casual conversation with my aunt and uncle in the car, with the kids. they were talking about dating, so i asked them how long they dated before they got married and my uncle said 2yrs! like wow, thats not very long, BUT i can understand because for them, they were old enough so they didnt have to date long, as long as they felt they were right to be together and that the time was right. we are still so young, we still have so much ahead, so many people to meet, how do you know if your current bf is the perfect one or not? ok i think it is easier to tell if he isn't the perfect one... but when you don't know, what makes you decide if he is the one or not? how do you know when that person is mr right? is love just like a trial and error?

since the topic is marriage here, how bout infidelity. we all know people change, you never know what will happen. IF one day, you find out your husband cheated on you, will you turn a blind eye and cry silently or trash it out with him? will you get divorced? i mean, getting married isn't just like getting into another relationship where breaking up is easier than a divorce. how strong are you? especially if you already have kids...

marriage is starting to scare me a bit. i certainly don't wanna be like gabrielle solis, and well, affairs just complicate things further.

tw|nKled by t|aRa on 11:55 PM